I hate resorting to Yahoo Answers for advice, but I desperately need advice from an objective source. I’ve been absolutely crazy over this person for over a year now, and I’m wondering if I should “make the first move” considering the guy is shy. However, like any typical girl, I fear rejection and don’t want to dive into something I’d later be embarrassed about. A few of the things he’s done that somewhat give me the signal he may be interested include:
- Looking at me every single time whenever I make myself present (when he already knows who it is).
- Asking me questions like, “Do we have a quiz in biology?” etc. even though he never really asks questions like that to his friends, which leads me to believe he’s trying to make small talk.
- About 50% of the time I look up at him, I catch him looking at me first.
- Whenever he makes jokes in class and everyone cracks up, I often look over at him to find him smiling at me in that “I’m glad you’re laughing at my joke” way.
- At one point this school year he asked me if his tie was tight enough at the top (when it obviously wasn’t) and after telling my friends that, they said he was probably trying to hint that I should fix it for him.
- Last year he got very defensive when one of his friends pushed him, causing him to slam into me. He angrily halfway yelled at his friend, “Look what you did.” (Although that might just be him being polite, or irritated from being pushed).
- Another similar instance occurred a few weeks ago when he overheard me telling a girlfriend of mine that a guy physically forced something on me; he sarcastically said, “That’s cute.”
Over time I’ve noticed he’s more comfortable and open talking to me when fewer people are around. I’ve also noticed he’s significantly more flirty and touchy with his female friends when they visit him (ex: hugging, enthusiastically saying the girl’s name). What makes me disagree with the thought of him being interested in me are the facts that some days he’ll completely make no contact with me of any sort, and the fact that when we first met he hardly made eye contact with me and immediately got very shy and quieter when my friend introduced us to each other. A few months ago one of my guy friends (humiliatingly) messaged him via Facebook and advised him to talk to me. He agreed to do it, but never did (another reason I doubt his interest in me, unless he was shy). Months later, my friend messaged him a paragraph (goodness) of how I felt, to which he never replied. Firstly, that was extremely embarrassing for me because I didn’t want the guy to think I was creepy and obsessive. However, if he really did think of me that way, I don’t think he’d make any effort to socialize with me. I’m extremely shy and I, as well as others, think he’s simply shy, too. By the way, this guy and I have known each other for about a year and a half, but didn’t start talking more until last August when we were put in a class together. I’d hate to confuse him simply being polite with him being legitimately interested, so any helpful thoughts, advice, and opinions are welcomed. If he is interested, how do I go about showing him I’m interested without coming off as creepy, weird, or obsessive? Let me know what’cha think. Thanks so much.